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When you’re depleted, don’t feel bad for taking the time to recharge

Even with coping tools, therapy, and meds… sometimes depression can still take me down hard. I’m currently depleted, and trying to figure out what I need to differently to feel better, to recharge. Don’t feel bad if you need to do the same. ⁣ ⁣If your mental health is feeling off, please get help. My … Read moreWhen you’re depleted, don’t feel bad for taking the time to recharge

How to reframe negative thinking

One of the most important things I learned during Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is how to reframe negative thinking. The first step is to become aware of the thoughts you’re having throughout the day. Once you’re in tune with the noise in your head, you can better control it. How empowering is it to know … Read moreHow to reframe negative thinking

Feeling good while you live with depression is a constant struggle

Feeling good while you live with depression is a constant struggle. And last week I could definitely feel the fight. While choosing to see beauty every day is a big part of what helps me with my depression, there are several other things I have to consistently do to help me feel good: I have … Read moreFeeling good while you live with depression is a constant struggle

Check in with your friends and family

I want you to do something this week. Check in with three people you haven’t talked to in awhile. Just text, message, or call them to see how they’re doing. In this social media world we live in, it can feel like we know how everyone’s doing by the pictures and posts we see. But … Read moreCheck in with your friends and family

How bright colors can help your mood

Let’s talk about how bright colors can help your mood. This picture was taken a few years ago during the winter when I was living in Ohio. It was dark and dreary and cold for months. I CRAVED color. So I made sure I surrounded myself with it, like when I went to a painting … Read moreHow bright colors can help your mood

Notice your surroundings and moments in your day

As you go about your week, remember to take a minute to just notice your surroundings. Stop and look around you. You’ll probably see something you’ve passed by before without realizing it. Really pay attention to the moments throughout your days instead of just being on auto-pilot. Whether it’s the clouds, a conversation with a … Read moreNotice your surroundings and moments in your day

Morning affirmations to help you feel good about yourself

  Remind yourself every morning: “I AM… strong, beautiful, smart, capable, confident, worthy…” or whatever else YOU ARE that’s positive. Say it out loud, even though it may seem awkward. Keep saying it, even if you don’t believe it. Eventually, you will. Truth: I really struggle with this exercise, but I keep working on it! … Read moreMorning affirmations to help you feel good about yourself

How therapy helped when I didn’t like anything about myself

Him: What do you like about yourself?

Me: *Awkward silence

*Him: There has to be something?

Me: *More silence and avoiding eye contact*

Him: You can’t think of just one thing?

Me: *Shaking my head no*

Him: Do you like your ears? Your hair? Your feet? Just tell me one thing.

Me: *Finally forcing myself to speak* –> I guess I like my fingernails. People always tell me I have great nails.

Him: Well, that’s a start…

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Finding clarity in 2019

#MentalHealthMonday :.I've spent the past couple of weeks reflecting on 2018, and setting my intentions for 2019. The main thing I noticed about last year is that I was going in too many directions, which left me feeling constantly overwhelmed and exhausted. It was either make a change or burn out. I decided not to burn out. 2019 is going to be about doing what I need to be as healthy as I can be, and that means letting go of some things..Trying to make it as an entrepreneur is definitely challenging, especially when you're first starting out. But I'm determined to succeed, and for me, that means finding clarity. So this year, I'm putting more focus on my I Choose Beauty and Beautycounter businesses, and less on my real estate endeavors. Trying to make all three work well was way too much for me, and none got the attention they deserved. Plus the burden of it all really took its toll on my mental health..Fighting depression takes constant effort and I definitely don't need to make it harder than it already is. I'll keep sharing with you what I've learned and what I do to feel better every day, in the hopes that it will help you too. As always, feel free to reach out to me with any questions, either privately or in the comments..And if you want more information about mental health in general, my partner @MentalHealthAmerica has so much valuable information, including where to find support groups, referrals for mental health providers, and where to get affordable treatment if you don't have insurance. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the "Mental Health America" button...........#ichoosebeauty #mentalhealth #mentalillness #mentalwellness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthsupport #depressionrecovery #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthblog #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthrecovery #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthwarrior #fightintheopen #mentalhealthamerica

I’ve spent the past couple of weeks reflecting on 2018, and setting my intentions for 2019. The main thing I noticed about last year is that I was going in too many directions, which left me feeling constantly overwhelmed and exhausted. It was either make a change or burn out. I decided not to burn out. 😉 2019 is going to be about doing what I need to be as healthy as I can be, and that means letting go of some things.

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BEYOND THE BEAUTY: If you struggle with your self-confidence, try this

Truth: I struggle a lot with my self-confidence. I’ve been really having a hard time lately, and I know why. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) gave me a lot of coping tools that help me sooo much, but sometimes, you gotta dust off your tool box, if you know what I mean.

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Mental Health During the Holidays

#MentalHealthMonday:.I saw a great message about the holiday season from my partner, @MentalHealthAmerica, that really resonated with me, so I wanted to pass it on to you... I know sometimes when I'm feeling down, I don't want to reach out to people because I feel like I may be a burden. This is such an important time of year to check in on your friends and family, and tell them what you love about them. ️."Sometimes the holidays can be especially hard for people. The holidays can cause some to feel anxious or depressed despite all the decorations and festivities. Some feel pressure to impress friends and family. Others may find their anxiety increases when they travel. And for others, family time is sometimes tainted by unwanted conversations or a toxic relative, some people don’t have anyone to spend the holidays with, or some are reminded of a lost loved one. It’s important to let your friends and family know you care." .You just never know how much your kindness can help someone, and give them hope at just the right time. xxoo Sahar..........#ichoosebeauty #mentalwellness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthsupport #depressionrecovery #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthblog #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthrecovery #mentalhealthwarrior #inspirationalmonday #wordsofwisdom #motivationalmonday #wordstoliveby #mindset #wordsofencouragement #b4stage4 #healthyholidays #holidayspirit #holidaystress #holidays2018

I saw a great message about the holiday season from my partner, Mental Health America, that really resonated with me, so I wanted to pass it on to you… I know sometimes when I’m feeling down, I don’t want to reach out to people because I worry I may be a burden. This is such an important time of year to check in on your friends and family, and tell them what you love about them. ️.

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BEYOND THE BEAUTY: Exercise and mental health

#MentalHealthMonday:The great news: Exercise has been proven to help with depression. The tough part: When you have depression, you lose all desire and motivation to do ANYTHING, even the things you love and the things you know will help you feel better. It's like a catch-22.I've always been active, and enjoy exercise a lot. But during the worst times with my depression, I'm inconsistent with my exercise, even to the point where I just stop for long stretches. What helps me the most is to just do something... anything... even if it's going on a five-minute walk. I start small, and build from there. Sometimes this is so much easier said than done though, and I've definitely been at a place where I couldn't do anything, not even get out of bed. I've been on track lately though - doing a lot of walking and Barre these days, and planning to get back to the Pilates reformer (as seen in this photo). You can find more info about how exercise helps your mental health from my partner, @mentalhealthamerica. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the "Mental Health America" button...........#IChooseBeauty #mentalwellness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthsupport #depressionrecovery #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthrecovery #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthwarrior #Mondayinspiration #inspirationoftheday #inspirationdaily #inspirationalpost #inspirationalwords#itsthelittlethingsinlife #simplethingsinlife #findingjoy #beautyeverywhere #beautyiseverywhere #lookaroundyou #lookaround #gratefulness #beautifuldays #gratitudeeveryday #lifeisbeautiful #liveinthemoment

Beyond the Beauty: The great news – Exercise has been proven to help with depression. The tough part – When you have depression, you lose all desire and motivation to do ANYTHING, even the things you love and the things you know will help you feel better. It’s like a catch-22.

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BEYOND THE BEAUTY: How Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) helped me

#MentalHealthMonday.Let's talk about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and how it can help you feel better. This is the type of therapy I went through several years ago, which ultimately lead to #IChooseBeauty..My mind was constantly bombarded with negative self-talk. I don't want to mention the specific awful things I was saying to myself because they're too triggering for me, but I can tell you that I couldn't stand the sight of myself in the mirror. I was in a really dark place, and CBT helped get me out..CBT focuses on your beliefs and helps to change the way you think and react to the things happening around you... which in turn, changes how you feel. It basically re-trains your brain..I learned so many tools that I use every day. I've shared several of them here in the past few weeks - my morning routine, my nighttime ritual, how to expand what you find meaningful in life... All of those are brain exercises that can help you feel better. And all of them I learned during CBT..I will keep sharing more in the weeks to come. But I wanted to talk a little about the type of therapy these tools are based on, in case it's something that resonates with you. If it's not, but you're not feeling well mentally, know that there are several other types of therapy that might be the right fit for you..What matters is that you get help. My partner, @mentalhealthamerica has detailed information on finding therapy that meets your needs. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the "Mental Health America" button. I'm a huge believer in therapy - it saved my life.

Beyond the Beauty: Let’s talk about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and how it can help you feel better. This is the type of therapy I went through several years ago, which ultimately lead to #IChooseBeauty.

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BEYOND THE BEAUTY: My morning practice to fight depression

Beyond the Beauty: When your alarm goes off in the morning, do you immediately pick up your phone (because your phone is also your alarm, of course), check your texts, emails, social media platforms, and the news before you get out of bed? You know that’s like crash-landing into the start of your day, right?! … Read moreBEYOND THE BEAUTY: My morning practice to fight depression

BEYOND THE BEAUTY: My nightly practice to fight depression

#MentalHealthMonday.My evening routine for the last several years is something that takes just a few minutes, but makes a world of difference in how I feel about myself... especially when I'm down. It's a tool I learned in therapy that helps to train your brain to notice the good in yourself and in your life, even if things are crappy in your world..Every night before I go to bed, I ask myself these three questions:.1. What am I grateful for today (or what went well today)?.2. What's something I did today that makes me proud of myself?.3. What am I looking forward to tomorrow?.Some nights, the answers come quickly; other times it's a major struggle, but those are the times I know I need this exercise the most..Try adding this practice to your day, and see how you feel when you do it consistently..Sometimes the answers can seem so insignificant, like "I'm proud of myself for checking the mail"... but actually, that IS a big deal if you're not feeling well. It's still something that you made happen and you should be proud of every little thing..This definitely works better for me if I write down the answers, so that's what I recommend you do. Start a journal or keep track digitally in your notepad on your phone. It can be so therapeutic to read through your answers once you've been at it awhile: at You’ll see all the things you accomplished, all the things that went well in your life, everything you have to look forward to!.I hope this helps you as much as it helps me. And if you need more ideas on how to stay mentally healthy, my partner, @mentalhealthamerica has lots of good info. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the "Mental Health America" button. #beyondthebeauty.: @angelous8103

Beyond the Beauty: My evening routine for the last several years is something that takes just a few minutes, but makes a world of difference in how I feel about myself… especially when I’m down. It’s a tool I learned in therapy that helps to train your brain to notice the good in yourself and in your life, even if things are crappy in your world.

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BEYOND THE BEAUTY: How nutrition affects mental health

#MentalHealthMondayBeyond the Beauty: Last week, I shared with you how physical health affects our mental health. And while we can't always help what happens to us healthwise, it's important to focus on what we CAN control. Nutrition is one of those things..I remember in therapy, my psychologist would always ask me how my diet was. And for good reason. What we eat has a huge impact on how we feel physically and mentally..My diet is by no means perfect, but I’ve always been a pretty healthy eater. I usually eat about 90% clean whole foods… and 10% dark chocolate. You can see from this picture how much I adore my dark chocolate! .The more I learn, the more I adjust what I put in my body. I’ve cut out all artificial preservatives, flavors and colors. No dairy either because of a severe allergy..In the last few years, I've looked into how specific nutrients can help ease the symptoms of depression, and make sure I include them in my diet: Omega 3 fatty acids, B-group vitamins, and Vitamin D are all backed by science as being good for your brain health. BTW, a lot of people have a Vitamin D deficiency and don't even realize it - I was one of them! Are you? You should find out for sure..My partner, @mentalhealthamerica has lots of information about these three nutrients, which specific foods are good sources of them, and more about diet and mental health. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the "Mental Health America" button..Start with one small tweak in your diet, and go from there. The thing that's empowering about nutrition is that you have full control over what you eat, so why not choose food that's going to help you feel better? xxoo

Beyond the Beauty: Last week, I shared with you how physical health affects our mental health. And while we can’t always help what happens to us healthwise, it’s important to focus on what we CAN control. Nutrition is one of those things.

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LET’S TALK ABOUT: How physical health problems take their toll on your mental health

#MentalHealthMondayBeyond the Beauty: Let's talk about how physical health problems take their toll on your mental health. For as long as I can remember, I've had a crappy immune system - ever since I was a kid, I was always fighting something. But my longest battle was with endometriosis, and it definitely contributed to my depression..30+ years of on-and-off excruciating, debilitating pain from endometriosis really got to me. I've had five surgeries for the disease, and each recovery was a little harder. I felt like my body was failing me. And after every surgery, it was like starting over to get back to my usual exercise routine and feel "normal" again..Then out of nowhere, right after my fifth surgery for endometriosis, came lichen planus - an autoimmune disease that affects the skin. It itches and scabs like crazy, and it was all over my arms, legs, and torso. I felt hideous and self conscious. I wore long sleeves whenever I could (even in the spring and summer) and couldn’t stand to look at myself in the mirror..That was when I was at my worst with my depression. And my health was definitely a huge factor. I'm telling you all this because I want you to know that if you have medical problems and you're feeling depressed or anxious, you are not alone..If you're not sure if you're having symptoms of a mental health condition, my partner, @mentalhealthamerica has mental health screenings you can take to find out. Just click on the the link in my bio and go to the "Mental Health America" button. Recovery is possible - I'm living proof.

Let’s talk about: How physical health problems take their toll on your mental health. For as long as I can remember, I’ve had a crappy immune system – ever since I was a kid, I was always fighting something. But my longest battle was with endometriosis, and it definitely contributed to my depression.

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BEYOND THE BEAUTY: How to be happy living with depression

#MentalHealthMonday : Last week I mentioned that while choosing to see beauty every day is a big part of what helps me with my depression, there are several other things I have to consistently do to help me feel good..Enter “Beyond the Beauty” - a new series to share what I’ve learned to do to fight depression beyond #IChooseBeauty..For me, it mainly comes down to paying attention to five things every single day. Do I slip up? Absolutely. And when I do, I can definitely feel it in my mood. I have to make a conscious effort throughout the day to make everything happen..I detail it all in a blog post on my website - there’s a link to it in my bio. Click on “How to be happy living with depression.”.I’ll be sharing more coping tools and strategies that help me going forward. And remember, my partner @mentalhealthamerica is an incredible resource - MHA offers everything from a support group to free screenings to information about treatment options.

Beyond the Beauty: How to be happy living with depression

Last week I mentioned that while choosing to see beauty every day is a big part of what helps me with my depression, there are several other things I have to consistently do to help me feel good.

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Going beyond #IChooseBeauty to fight depression

#MentalHealthMonday: It takes more than noticing the beauty in life (like this aisle filled with dark chocolate ) to put that smile on my face..Living with depression is a daily struggle, and while choosing to see beauty in every day is a HUGE part of what helps me feel better, I want to share more with you about all the other things I have to consistently do to keep from slipping back down that dark hole I was in a few years ago. The work does not stop, you guys. It's a forever fight. And some days are definitely harder than others..But I want you all to know there is light. Please don't give up. And if you need help, please reach out. My partner @mentalhealthamerica can help you learn about the many treatment options - just click on the "Mental Health America" link in my bio..Look for more about my journey with depression and my daily coping tools here on Mondays and in my InstaStories thoughout the week. I will also be sharing on IGTV because some things are easier to explain on video in increments longer than 15 seconds at a time. I sincerely hope that what I’ve learned can perhaps help you... or someone you know who's struggling. xxoo #IChooseBeauty

Truth: It takes more than noticing the beauty in life (like this aisle filled with dark chocolate) to put that smile on my face. Living with depression is a daily struggle, and while choosing to see beauty in every day is a HUGE part of what helps me feel better, I want to share more with you about all the other things I have to consistently do to keep from slipping back down that dark hole I was in a few years ago.

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