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A funny thing happened in therapy recently…

⁣⁣I thought I had mastered the message on my shirt: “Once you stop chasing happiness, you find it.” ⁣⁣It was a tough one for me to get through my stubborn head, but I finally did it during therapy a few years ago in Ohio. I totally believed it, and have lived it ever since. ⁣⁣ … Read moreA funny thing happened in therapy recently…

To my fellow chronic illness warriors:

I see you, I stand with you, I am you. ⁣⁠⁣⁠I know how this burden can take its toll on you, physically and emotionally.⁣⁠⁣⁠ If you’re having a bad day, take extra care. ⁣⁠⁣⁠If you’re having a good day, celebrate it.⁣⁠⁣⁠ Remember, you are not alone. Your pain is real. Listen to your body, and … Read moreTo my fellow chronic illness warriors:

Always celebrate your small wins

We all have goals. Financial goals, health goals, personal goals. Sometimes, they’re pretty big goals. While we’re reaching for them, they can seem so far off, and it’s easy to feel like we’re getting nowhere fast. ⁠⁠A couple of years ago, I started keeping track of my small wins in this notebook. It makes such … Read moreAlways celebrate your small wins

In the midst of the bad, there’s always something good

“When I recall where I was, I’m so grateful that I found a way out of it. I still have dark days, but #IChooseBeauty helps me remember that even in the midst of a lot of bad, there’s always something good.” Sahar Aker ⁣⁣That was my quote in Experience Life Magazine a couple of years … Read moreIn the midst of the bad, there’s always something good

Gut-brain connection

Over the last three years, I’ve been reading more about the gut-brain connection, and the role it plays in our mental health. I find this newish research fascinating. You know how you sometimes feel like you have to “go with your gut” or you feel “butterflies” in your stomach when you’re nervous? Scientists say that … Read moreGut-brain connection

Becoming as healthy as “healthy” can be for me

In my family, I’m jokingly (or maybe they’re serious? 🤷🏽‍♀️) known as the food police. I’m pretty picky about all things food – not just what I eat, but what everyone else eats. 🤣JK. Kind of. 🤔I also know all the rules about how long certain foods should sit out etc., and try to enforce … Read moreBecoming as healthy as “healthy” can be for me

Meniere’s disease and the mind-body connection

⁣Never have I been more convinced about the mind-body connection than I am right now. As I mentioned last week, I was recently diagnosed with Meniere’s disease… but what I didn’t share is what was going on with me right before the diagnosis.⁣. I’ve been super stressed out for much of the three years we’ve … Read moreMeniere’s disease and the mind-body connection

When you’re depleted, don’t feel bad for taking the time to recharge

Even with coping tools, therapy, and meds… sometimes depression can still take me down hard. I’m currently depleted, and trying to figure out what I need to differently to feel better, to recharge. Don’t feel bad if you need to do the same. ⁣ ⁣If your mental health is feeling off, please get help. My … Read moreWhen you’re depleted, don’t feel bad for taking the time to recharge

How to reframe negative thinking

One of the most important things I learned during Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is how to reframe negative thinking. The first step is to become aware of the thoughts you’re having throughout the day. Once you’re in tune with the noise in your head, you can better control it. How empowering is it to know … Read moreHow to reframe negative thinking

Feeling good while you live with depression is a constant struggle

Feeling good while you live with depression is a constant struggle. And last week I could definitely feel the fight. While choosing to see beauty every day is a big part of what helps me with my depression, there are several other things I have to consistently do to help me feel good: I have … Read moreFeeling good while you live with depression is a constant struggle

Check in with your friends and family

I want you to do something this week. Check in with three people you haven’t talked to in awhile. Just text, message, or call them to see how they’re doing. In this social media world we live in, it can feel like we know how everyone’s doing by the pictures and posts we see. But … Read moreCheck in with your friends and family

How bright colors can help your mood

Let’s talk about how bright colors can help your mood. This picture was taken a few years ago during the winter when I was living in Ohio. It was dark and dreary and cold for months. I CRAVED color. So I made sure I surrounded myself with it, like when I went to a painting … Read moreHow bright colors can help your mood

Notice your surroundings and moments in your day

As you go about your week, remember to take a minute to just notice your surroundings. Stop and look around you. You’ll probably see something you’ve passed by before without realizing it. Really pay attention to the moments throughout your days instead of just being on auto-pilot. Whether it’s the clouds, a conversation with a … Read moreNotice your surroundings and moments in your day

Morning affirmations to help you feel good about yourself

  Remind yourself every morning: “I AM… strong, beautiful, smart, capable, confident, worthy…” or whatever else YOU ARE that’s positive. Say it out loud, even though it may seem awkward. Keep saying it, even if you don’t believe it. Eventually, you will. Truth: I really struggle with this exercise, but I keep working on it! … Read moreMorning affirmations to help you feel good about yourself

How therapy helped when I didn’t like anything about myself

Him: What do you like about yourself?

Me: *Awkward silence

*Him: There has to be something?

Me: *More silence and avoiding eye contact*

Him: You can’t think of just one thing?

Me: *Shaking my head no*

Him: Do you like your ears? Your hair? Your feet? Just tell me one thing.

Me: *Finally forcing myself to speak* –> I guess I like my fingernails. People always tell me I have great nails.

Him: Well, that’s a start…

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Finding clarity in 2019

#MentalHealthMonday :.I've spent the past couple of weeks reflecting on 2018, and setting my intentions for 2019. The main thing I noticed about last year is that I was going in too many directions, which left me feeling constantly overwhelmed and exhausted. It was either make a change or burn out. I decided not to burn out. 2019 is going to be about doing what I need to be as healthy as I can be, and that means letting go of some things..Trying to make it as an entrepreneur is definitely challenging, especially when you're first starting out. But I'm determined to succeed, and for me, that means finding clarity. So this year, I'm putting more focus on my I Choose Beauty and Beautycounter businesses, and less on my real estate endeavors. Trying to make all three work well was way too much for me, and none got the attention they deserved. Plus the burden of it all really took its toll on my mental health..Fighting depression takes constant effort and I definitely don't need to make it harder than it already is. I'll keep sharing with you what I've learned and what I do to feel better every day, in the hopes that it will help you too. As always, feel free to reach out to me with any questions, either privately or in the comments..And if you want more information about mental health in general, my partner @MentalHealthAmerica has so much valuable information, including where to find support groups, referrals for mental health providers, and where to get affordable treatment if you don't have insurance. Just click on the link in my bio and go to the "Mental Health America" button...........#ichoosebeauty #mentalhealth #mentalillness #mentalwellness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthsupport #depressionrecovery #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthblog #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthrecovery #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthwarrior #fightintheopen #mentalhealthamerica

I’ve spent the past couple of weeks reflecting on 2018, and setting my intentions for 2019. The main thing I noticed about last year is that I was going in too many directions, which left me feeling constantly overwhelmed and exhausted. It was either make a change or burn out. I decided not to burn out. 😉 2019 is going to be about doing what I need to be as healthy as I can be, and that means letting go of some things.

Read moreFinding clarity in 2019

If you struggle with your self-confidence, try this

Truth: I struggle a lot with my self-confidence. I’ve been really having a hard time lately, and I know why. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) gave me a lot of coping tools that help me sooo much, but sometimes, you gotta dust off your tool box, if you know what I mean.

Read moreIf you struggle with your self-confidence, try this

Mental Health During the Holidays

#MentalHealthMonday:.I saw a great message about the holiday season from my partner, @MentalHealthAmerica, that really resonated with me, so I wanted to pass it on to you... I know sometimes when I'm feeling down, I don't want to reach out to people because I feel like I may be a burden. This is such an important time of year to check in on your friends and family, and tell them what you love about them. ️."Sometimes the holidays can be especially hard for people. The holidays can cause some to feel anxious or depressed despite all the decorations and festivities. Some feel pressure to impress friends and family. Others may find their anxiety increases when they travel. And for others, family time is sometimes tainted by unwanted conversations or a toxic relative, some people don’t have anyone to spend the holidays with, or some are reminded of a lost loved one. It’s important to let your friends and family know you care." .You just never know how much your kindness can help someone, and give them hope at just the right time. xxoo Sahar..........#ichoosebeauty #mentalwellness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthsupport #depressionrecovery #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthblog #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealthrecovery #mentalhealthwarrior #inspirationalmonday #wordsofwisdom #motivationalmonday #wordstoliveby #mindset #wordsofencouragement #b4stage4 #healthyholidays #holidayspirit #holidaystress #holidays2018

I saw a great message about the holiday season from my partner, Mental Health America, that really resonated with me, so I wanted to pass it on to you… I know sometimes when I’m feeling down, I don’t want to reach out to people because I worry I may be a burden. This is such an important time of year to check in on your friends and family, and tell them what you love about them. ️.

Read moreMental Health During the Holidays

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